personality psychology

~initiative~

~talented~

~responsibility~

~caring~

~quiet~

~shy~

~sensitivity~

~dependable~

~easygoing~

~independent~

~courageous~

~outdoor~

~interesting~

We are naturally attracted to individuals who are different from ourselves - and therefore somewhat exciting. But it's not just the exciting differences which attract us to our opposites, it is also a natural quest for completion.

We naturally are drawn towards individuals who have strengths which we are missing. There is also the theory that our natural attraction to our opposites is a subconscious way of forcing us to deal with the weaker aspects of our own nature. So in a sense, our attraction to the opposite personality can be seen as our subconscious minds driving us towards becoming a more complete individual, by causing us to face the areas in life which are most difficult to us.

On the other hand, the same cannot be said for other kinds of relationships. When it comes to work colleagues, or friends, we are not especially interested in dealing with people who are very unlike ourselves. We are most comfortable with those who have similar interests and perspectives, and we do not show a lot of motivation or patience for dealing with our opposites.

Analyzing motives and putting oneself in other people's shoes in order to understand their behavior

*sensitiveness

Seeking encouragement and support from others and appreciating being aided when in need

*neediness

Doing one's best in objective or difficult tasks and achieving recognition

*achievement