When we have no control over the outcome, say to yourself - FUCK IT. And then move on.
Of course, allow ourselves to be sad over it. But
know when is enough.
Give up on the idea that things will work out eventually, as these are things we dwell in too much for too long,
unnecessarily.
Don't be embarrassed; not proud either. Evaluate on the situation - was it us or was it the other person, or was it both? Then just tell the other person, your co-worker, neighbor, or the imaginary outcome to F*** off. Work on ourselves. There is something to improve, somewhere. Look into ourselves, find it. Then work on it. Our time is precious, don't spend anymore extra seconds on things or people who does not care. Spend it on ourselves.
Dwelling on things too much for too long only waste too much of our time - time that can be spent doing so many things for ourselves - pick up a new hobby, change our wardrobe, travel, go bungee jumping, create a new recipe, join a club, volunteer, visit the cafe we have always heard about, with the people who do care for us - they are the ones that will be there for us when we are in the hardest of all times.
Without realizing, a year would have passed by, maybe two. We don't want our youth to be wasted, don't we?
Our darkest moments, often times come with comparing ourselves to others. Yes, we all can't help but compare ourselves to others, but just don't. We never know how others really feel. We think we saw how unfair life is, how another couple is just so happy and living a perfect life. But how do we know that they are actually really happy? We are not therefore, we do not assuhem, tme. Or maybe, who knows, a month or two from now, one of the perfectly happy couple met a car accident and was killed and the survivor is left to mourn? Or the person may have met with a critical health condition and have only few months to live? Or the seemingly happy-go-lucky person on his job may get retrenched the next month? Many things are out of our control and unpredictable. They are not for us to judge, or presume. The only thing we can do is to just do our part, be kind to our community, and most importantly to ourselves.
Be truthful to ourselves, sometimes things will not go our way, because they are not right for us. Well, something else is - and only Time will tell when the right one will come.
So just say FUCK IT. And then move on.
